Sex Dictionary: The ABCs of Sexual Terms

Sex is a vast and intricate world full of secret pleasures. Before you start exploring, it’s best to know your basics. We’ll spell it out for you below in plain American English (you’re welcome).

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A

• Anal sex: This is a form of penetrative sex during which a penis, finger, or sex toy stimulates the inside of the anal cavity. Commonly assumed to be a form of male sex, anal stimulation is not tied to any one gender or sexual orientation.
• Analingus: This is oral stimulation of another person’s anus. It may involve sucking, licking, kissing, or penetrating.
• Aromantic: An individual who experiences little to no romantic desire for others. Synonyms include ace, aro, and non-amorous.
• Asexual: An individual who experiences little to no sexual attraction toward the opposite sex or same sex.

B

• Bareback: Any form of penetrative sexual intercourse performed without the use of a condom.
• BDSM: An acronym standing for bondage, discipline/domination, sadism, and masochism. It is an umbrella term for a type of sexual activity that can take many different forms.
• Bisexual: An individual who is attracted to both men and women.
• Blow job: The act of putting male genitalia (dick) into the mouth to give pleasure.
• Butt plug: This is a sex toy, typically shaped like a small plug, that can be inserted into the rectum to give pleasure.

C

• Cisgender: This is a form of gender identity. A cisgender person chooses to identify with the sex they were assigned at birth.
• Clitoris: This is a sexual organ. It is a small nub of skin at the top of a woman’s vulva, containing over 10,000 nerve endings on average.
• Consent: Another word for permission. Example sentences for sexual consent could be, "Yes," "Let's have sex," "Hell ya," etc.
• Contraception: The act of preventing or controlling conception and, therefore, pregnancy. Popular methods of contraception include the pill, condoms, and vasectomies.
• Creampie: Ejaculation inside of a vagina or anus without a condom, resulting in a seeping ‘creampie’ of jizz.
• Cum: To ejaculate.
• Cunnilingus: The use of the mouth to stimulate a woman’s clit, vulva, and/or vagina.

D

• Deep throating: This is a sexual act and is a form of oral sex where the penis is inserted deep into the throat of a partner.
• Demisexual: This is a form of sexual orientation where an individual only develops romantic or sexual attraction after forming a strong emotional bond.
• Dental dam: This is a form of STD/STI protection. It is a sheet of plastic placed over the mouth for use during oral sex.
• Dildo: A sex toy in the shape of a penis. It can be hyper-realistic or non-anatomical.
• Dirty talk: Sexually explicit conversation or phrases meant to arouse a partner.
• Doggy style: This is a sexual position used during intercourse, during which one partner is on all fours (like a dog) while another partner penetrates from behind.

E

• Edging: This is when one partner stimulates another, continually stopping their actions before a sexual orgasm is reached. It’s used to create a stronger final orgasm.
• Ejaculation: This is the liquid that is ejected from the genitals during an orgasm.
• Erection: When sexual arousal causes a penis to swell or “get hard.”

F

• Face sitting: The act of oral sex while hovering or “sitting” on a partner's mouth.
• Fertility: The ability to which someone can reproduce. All sexes can have low or high fertility depending on genetics, age, and health.
• Fetish: A type of sexual desire that hyper-focuses on a specific trait, act, piece of clothing, etc.
• Fingering: The act of stimulating a partner's genitals (typically the clit) with the fingers.
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• Foreplay: This is any sexual activity that happens before intercourse.

G

• G-spot: This is the area in a vagina that experiences heightened pleasure.
• Gagging: The act of pushing a penis or object so far into a partner's throat that they gag. This is often used during BDSM.
• Gay: Another word for homosexual.
• Genitals: Reproductive organs.

H

• Hand job: The act of stroking a penis until ejaculation.
• Hard-on: Another word for erection.
• Heterosexual: An individual who is sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex.
• Hickey: A small bruise caused by sucking on the skin.
• Homosexual: An individual who is sexually attracted to people of the same sex.
• Horny: Feelings of sexual pleasure without a proper outlet.

K

• Kink: A specific or unconventional sexual preference.

L

• Lesbian: A woman who is sexually attracted to other women.
• LGBTQ+: This is an acronym for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer/questioning, asexual, and many other terms.
• Libido: Another word for sex drive.
• Lube: A liquid used to make sex easier or more pleasurable. It is also used on sex toys.

M

• Masturbation: Stimulation of one's own genitals for sexual pleasure.
• Mile-high club: When sexual intercourse is done while flying in a plane.
• Missionary: This is a sexual position. It takes many forms but must involve one partner lying down while another faces them from above.
• Morning-after pill: This is a form of emergency contraceptive, also called “Plan B.” It can prevent pregnancy if taken correctly.
• Motor-boating: The act of placing one’s face between a woman's breasts and rocking back and forth.

N

• Non-binary: An individual who doesn't identify with the binary (male or female).
• Nipple clamps: A sexual device designed to clip onto the nipples, stimulating the breast.

O

• Oral sex: The use of the tongue or mouth to stimulate a penis or vagina.
• Orgasm: A biological event when an individual reaches their sexual peak, often resulting in cum and strong feelings of pleasure.
• Ovulation: The point in a woman’s cycle where an egg is released and pregnancy is possible. This typically lasts for a few days.

P

• Pansexual: This is a type of sexuality where an individual is attracted to more than two genders and all sexes.
• Pegging: The act of using a strap-on (definition below) to have penetrative sex with another person.
• Penetration: Entering another person’s body (typically anus or genitals) with an appendage or object.
• Penis: A type of male genitalia. Also referred to as a dick, member, late-night-squeeze-toy.
• Pocket pussy: This is a sex toy that looks like a hyperrealistic vagina, offering sensational squeezing.
• Pornography (porn): A form of adult entertainment, typically a video of one or more adults engaged in a sexual act.
• Premature ejaculation: The act of cumming before intended. It’s an extremely normal occurrence for most men and some women.

Q

• Queer: Another word for a person who identifies as homosexual.
• Queefing: This is the noise that occasionally comes from a woman’s vagina after or during intercourse caused by the buildup of air in the vaginal canal. It’s perfectly normal and happens to many women.
• Quickie: Any form of sexual act (though typically intercourse) completed in a short amount of time. For example, “We have to leave in 5 minutes, so let’s have a quickie.”

R

• Raw dogging: The act of penetrative sex without the use of a condom.
• Rimming: A sexual act where one partner uses their tongue or mouth to stimulate a partner's anus.
• Roleplay: A type of sexual act where two or more partners take on a fake persona for the goal of heightened sexual pleasure.

S

• Safeword: A word or phrase decided before a sexual act that will signal the end of the act. Typically, a practice used in BDSM sex.
• Semen: The fluid that is ejected from a penis during ejaculation. Contains sperm and other fluids.
• Sexual attraction: The feeling of being drawn to an individual or object in a sexual manner.
• Sexual intercourse: A sexual act commonly referring to the insertion of a man’s penis into a woman's vagina. However, this phrase can refer to any form of genitalia penetration or same-sex sexual interaction.
• Sexually transmitted diseases: Infections that are passed during sexual contact and more often affect a sexual organ or genitalia (though can infect the entire body). Some can be cured by medication, while some have no cure.
• Squirting: A female orgasm that results in a liquid being sprayed from the vagina.
• Strap-on: This is a type of sex toy (typically used by individuals without penises) that has a dildo attached to it and can be strapped to the abdomen. This allows one partner to penetrate the other more easily.
• Stroker: These are male masturbators that may or may not vibrate and allow for pleasurable penile insertion. A stroker is an excellent toy for artificial penetration.

T

• Tea bagging: A sexual act referring to when a scrotum (balls) are dipped repeatedly into a partner's mouth. Can be fun. Requires a lot of leg strength.
• Threesome: Any sexual act involving three individuals.
• Transgender: An individual who does not identify with the sex they were assigned at birth. Also referred to as ‘trans,’ these individuals are diverse and may prefer various terms.
• Tribbing: A sexual act referring to when two women rub their vulvas and clits together to reach sexual pleasure. Can take many different forms and involves several different positions.

U

• Unprotected sex: Any form of intercourse without the use of contraception or STI prevention.

V

• Vagina: A type of female genitalia. An opening that runs from the vulva to the uterus.
• Vibrator: A type of powered sex toy. Vibrators literally vibrate, making stimulation of genitals much easier and highly pleasurable.

W

• Wanking: Jacking off, solo pleasure, or masturbation, specifically involving a man’s hand and his member.
• Wet dreams: A type of sexual dream commonly experienced by those entering puberty, though it can continue into adulthood, which results in cumming while sleeping. Hence, you awake ‘wet’.

X

• X-rated: A form of classification, labeling a piece of media as pornographic or indecent.

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